To love oneself is to accept yourself for the amazing human being you are, whether you think you are amazing or not, because face it, you are. Have you ever thought about how amazing it is to be human? Consider it for a moment. What is it that truly fascinates you about being human? ……………. We have trillions of cells. Millions of neurons in our brains. An amazing range of emotions. A mind with so much left to explore. A brain with the capacity to create art, and music, and literature. A heart with the ability to make the body function, to break and repair itself, and love unconditionally. Bodies that can survive even the most brutal of beatings. All of this, and so much more, is put together to create one incredible living, breathing, functioning YOU. It can only be impossible for there not to be a flaw, malfunction, quirk, or kink in the system in there somewhere. We all have them. We actually have millions of them. Without them, you and I would not be the beautifully unique human beings we are. No one would be different. Even with millions of flaws, deep within our very cores, within the genes that build us; we are still amazing. We are not perfect, but within imperfection there is beauty.
I love every single one of my quirks, awkward tendencies, crazy neuroses, nasty habits, guilty pleasures, flaws, insecurities and imperfections. I will admit I am not perfect. I am human, how could I ever be perfect?
On my Instagram I always try to stay positive and focus on progress and the good things that come with therapy. Even when I post about a bad day or a setback I will try to end on a positive and encouraging note. Because of this I had a follower ask me one day if I ever had a bad day, or knew how it felt to feel self conscious, gross, and weird. This
broke my heart. Of course! I have days where my insecurities get the best of me, or I care too much about what people think about my utterly blatant awkward-ness. I have days where I love every bit of my body and some days where I scare myself looking in the mirror! I am not always in love with every bit me, but I always love me. There is a difference between being in love and loving. To love yourself is to start a relationship with yourself. Relationships have ups, downs, fights, and hissy fits here and there. When I tell you to love every bit of yourself, I know that there will be days where you just don’t. But if you accept yourself as you are, that feeling or insecurity, whatever it may be, is only temporary. No matter how bad a day gets you know the love is unconditional, and when you are ready it will be there, waiting for you, with open arms and a big snuggly self-loving bear hug.
Right now! No matter how hard you think it might be, write down 5 things that make you, you. Things that you love about yourself. If you are struggling with self-love right now keep it with you and read it when you are down.
Accept yourself, every bit of you. Love each of those bits. Nurture them. Nurture your heart, and your mind. Fill them with love for yourself. in this love you will find strength.